There is one number in the research on workplace abuse that changes how you see everything else. It is not a finding about personality. It is not a finding about leadership style. It is a finding about direction. Between 50% and 80% of workplace abuse is directed by superiors to their subordinates. Abuse between coworkers…
“It was nothing.” “He just made a comment.” “She just looked at me.” “He interrupted me — so what?” “Nobody even said anything.” Each of these sentences describes something that happened. Each one, on its own, is dismissible. A comment. A look. An interruption. A silence. The institution — or the person inside it who…
Something is happening. You feel it every time. After every interaction with this person, something shifts — not in the room, not in anything you can point to, but in you. You feel smaller. You feel less certain of yourself. You feel like the ground beneath your own judgment has moved. And then the institutional…
Bennett Tepper, a researcher who studies psychological abuse in the workplace, defines it as “the sustained display of hostile verbal and nonverbal behavior, excluding physical contact.” This is a precise definition. It is academically rigorous. It excludes physical violence. It emphasizes persistence (sustained display, not isolated incidents). It captures both verbal moves (insults, put-downs) and…
The stereotype is clear. The workplace bully is a man. He is loud, aggressive, physically intimidating. He yells in meetings. He slams doors. He towers over subordinates and uses his size, his voice, and his position to dominate. The male tyrant. The alpha male. The overbearing boss who treats everyone below him as disposable. The…